How Chemistry Started

I always think remember the others name is important to start a social relationship, and also I think I know a warm smile is good for gaining better image and maintaining long term  relationship in social life. But in fact, I can’t fully apply these simple tips. Sometimes I just forget the name as I didn’t try the best to remember, sometimes I look down before I smile as I am afraid I can’t get the reaction from the others. I know I may miss a lot but I don’t know how to change.

Now, after the first lesson of Dale Carnegie, my life has very slightly chemical change.

The next day in office, I suddenly have more friends that I don’t know them before.  When I am holding a phone and talk in the passage, I need to keep on saying “Hi” to people passing by, some of them is my classmates in Dale Carnegie that I call their name, some are not that I just naturally show my smile and say “Hi”. And then I found it’s so easy to get the warm reaction. I feel good and I just keep on doing this in the coming few days. It works. Also, I am a little more welcomed than before. I am sitting in the front and now there is people passing by with stop and have a short talk with me that I can stole a moment from work for fun. In another aspect, I get a new buddy and we plan for data by having lunch which is really expected by me. Also, I get classmates and we plan for group discussion, we work together for something is not about the job. I think it’s amazing as we have fun.

We learn a special way for communication that I have more topics when start a conversation. I firstly apply this to my Mom as I think the most intimate person may be the easiest to be ignored in our daily life. I bring my Mom out for dinner that night I finish Dale Carnegie training, I ask a lot of questions while I answer a lot, listen a lot. Afterwards, I make frequent call to her after she back to Beijing on Tuesday. Now, after only 4 days, I feel she relies more on me that she said I am different and she likes this daughter more, but she can’t tell where is the change and when the change happen. I am glad to hear that which is given by this course.

GOAWAYCOMEBACK COMMENTS:

Many people believe in chemistry between people: with the right ingredients around, magic can happen between them!

Question is: why some lives more active with magic chemistry, while some lives with less or none?

The answer might be this: we cannot just wait for chemistry to happen, we have to do something to make it happen. For example, the lady took the initiative to interact with her mother in a different way, so the chemistry between them started to change.

With sincerity as the main ingredients, seasoned with Dale Carnegie principle, our lives will be filled with more positive chemistry!