Family Time

To my family and friends, I’m not the one who takes the imitative to contact & communicate. Instead, I’m always the passive one.

I called my mum/dad once per 2-3 weeks. Sometimes my mum can’t hold her anger and complains on the phone:” why you don’t call me so long?” I say in my heart:” that’s because I don’t know what to talk w. you….” Of course I won’t say that out. Instead I tell my mum:” if you miss me, why don’t you give me a call but just waiting for my call…..” Sometimes I doubt my passive may be inherited from my mum.

During this Chinese New Year Holiday, I found mum is more irritable which seems back to her climacteric period some years ago.

I feel sorry about her change. I tried to help her on some household duties. But she refused. She told me to take a good rest at home. I knew that’s the way she express her love to me. I stopped to do those chores but kept standing beside her and talking w. her. I asked her one question after another and dug more details on some interesting family affairs. She seemed happy and the smile on her face was bigger and bigger.

On the day back to Shenzhen, I need transit thru Guangzhou. The tickets of high speed train were sold out and I took bus back to SZ. Before the bus leaving Guangzhou, I called mum and told her what I was going to do. After back to home in SZ, I called her and told her the whole story in the journey. Although I was back to SZ couple of hours later than she expected, she was in good mood when talking w. me on phone.

A few days later, I got a call from my mum when I was watching movie in cinema. Her tone was still happy. If I didn’t tell her I was watching on movie, she wouldn’t like to stop. I promised to call her back and I did.

I’m so happy w. the relation improvement w. my mum. On the other side, I also take action to positively contact friends thru phone calls, short messages, QQ online chat….etc..  Some friends have been not contacted for a long time. However, when I approach them, their feedback is so quick and so warm which I don’t imagine and expect. Then some afternoon, when I was off line from QQ, I couldn’t hold tears any more. That’s tears of happiness.

I will continue to communicate proactively with family members and friends. Their love moves me deeply. And I shouldn’t hesitate to extend my love to them in return.

GOAWAYCOMEBACK COMMENTS:

Life is not how many breaths we take, but the moments that take our breaths away.

Family relationship is also not how much time we spend, but how many moments we created for them!

When we interviewed our parents like the writer did, we made moment for them.