A. I am sad about the process, and that, the 个人好恶/朋友之情 etc masked the fundamental failure of upholding a higher ethical standard of an elected position in Huaxia. 我们都极难把对某个人的评断放下，而去审视整个过程的不合适。Then emotions and imagination ran wild, 开始猜度发言是否出自何种个人目的，是否受谁指使，是否会被谁利用，开始以片面信息去评断个人行为，再滚雪球般波及他人，而把如何改善整体过程抛在脑后。个人难免软弱、自私、偏狭、骄傲，这就是我们为什么需要一个系统，一个程序，一个common ground (what I call public ethical value) to abide by that will transcend personal weaknesses. 

B. As a former board member of Livingston Huaxia, I ask the community to put aside personal preferences or concerns of 选边站 and consider the following:

1. Can anyone imagine doing the same if one is a board member of a US company and simultaneously set up a competing enterprise? 

2. Can anyone imagine three members of the same board behaving like this? 

If anyone thinks there is no competition with the Livingston Huaxia (LHXCS), ask Livingston residents who are already concerned about potential tuition hikes now that there are two other Chinese schools being established nearby. Millburn alone has three after school centers that offer various services to the Chinese community. 

3. If the three board members were thinking of solving Livingston Huaxia's congestion problem, then was the LHXCS board aware of the operation? When was the board notified? 

4. Once it was known that another school was already in the running, there will no longer be congestion problem in LHXCS, then what was the rationale of continuing such an operation? 

5. Most people, including me, wholeheartedly support the notion of a cultural center, but given a January survey of demand for a Chinese school, how come there is no flexibility in adapting the plan to address community concerns? 

6. Someone brought up the charter school debacle, can anyone imagine a BOE member/admin setting up a charter school in town or nearby? 

7. If not, why can't we as a community engage the Livingston Huaxia to find out what remedy can there be for the current situation? 

8. What future procedures can be implemented to prevent such incidences in 3 out of 9 board members, regardless of there they reside? 

9. Who else from Millburn can ever run for a board position in LHXCS?

10. Whether from the new survey result or the sad reality of these couple of weeks, such action caused the community to divide thus is it still appropriate for an exiting board member of 密而本华人协会 to remain there? I do not think it is the discussion that divides, it is the hushed tone, the underground guesses, the conspiracy theories that divides the community. 

C. It is MY failure for not questioning such collective behavior, instead letting sympathy or other personal preferences dictate the evaluation. I trust that, from the recent survey result, many residents saw the harm too, but might be afraid of saying anything. Whether this is typical of the Chinese or not I can't say, but if the Chinese community wants to become more mature in engaging in the bigger society, upholding "public ethical standard" should have the utmost priority. Otherwise there is no credibility. 

I can only say I am disappointed in my own silence. I'd like to see an open Board meeting at Livingston Huaxia to discuss procedural failure and remedies. 

In the end, even if this enterprise is successful, and I wish it will, it still doesn't mean the above approach is appropriate. The END does not justify the MEANS.

3/22更新：因为群里讨论老是以和谐为名被转移，刚发感言，在此留底。