全“A”的学生也并否更不容易出现抑郁或焦虑。同样，常春藤头衔拥有者也不能避免在以后生活中可能面临的不同形式的挑战，如失业，离婚，破产等其它生活中的变幻莫测。如果处理不利，这些个人挑战可能会导致某种形式的自我破坏如情绪化饮食，酗酒，吸毒或过度消费等。

因此，培养一个成功的孩子远远超过只是帮助他们取得好成绩和进入名牌大学。事实上，很多重要的生活技能都不是被教的或由我们学校的教学系统能够衡量的。例如，SAT成绩不能衡量一个孩子应对生活中的挑战和克服困难的能力。成绩不能衡量一个学生在压力中保持情感平衡的能力。一个人对优势和弱点，兴趣和厌恶的自我认识，不是在学校被教出来的，也不是进入哈佛或耶鲁大学的一个先决条件。然而，谁也不能否认，这些“软”技能是快乐和平衡的生活所必须的。

那我们作为父母能做些什么来帮助我们的孩子面对生活中的坎坷，克服不可避免的问题和困难，帮助我们的孩子不只是成为优秀的学生，而是成为被社会所需和贡献社会的公民呢？这是本月PCE活动的主题。

讲员简介：

Lisa Lieberman-Wang，Fine to FAB 的总裁和创始人。Lisa是排名第一的国际畅销书FINE to FAB的作者。 Li她帮助成千上万的人克服了长年的情感问题，包括抑郁，焦虑，紧张，自我破坏，情绪化进食，强迫购物，性虐待等。 

Lisa没有从理论的角度来处理这个问题。相反，她的做法具有高度的个人化和实用性。20年前Lisa为了满足她自己生活中的需要开展了她的研究。尽管为取悦父母，她取得高成就，成为一个优秀的学生和大学奖学金得主，但她奋斗多年的感觉，却是“永远不够好”; 这导致了她多年的抑郁症，强迫性过食，暴食，贪食症，住院和自我破坏。她努力寻找答案，“是我哪里错了？” ，尽管大学毕业后花费超过50万美元做治疗和自救教育。但从来没有找到一个解决办法。后来她认识到不能再让情感上的痛苦和消极的思维使她消沉下去。她用“七个秘密FAB”找回了她内心的平静和力量，而得到近20年的心灵自由。现在，Lisa倾尽余生致力于帮助他人找到同样的自由。

Lisa被选为嘉宾专家，出现在数以百万人观看的ABC, FOX, CBS, Huffington Post LIVE, Dish Network 55, Direct TV 55, Comcast Cable of NJ 10, TWC 85和包括一些最流行的访谈节目，如CBS的“The_TALK” ，与Donna Drake 在WLYN 10 的“Live It Up” ，与Dr. Barrett 在 “The Health of It”上 ，NuvoTV 中的“Curvy Girls”，并在一些最负盛名的包括哈佛大学和在海军纪念馆的讲台上演讲。

时间: 2016年01月09日星期六

6pm - 7pm: 新年伊始，PCE Club 青少年成员 Billy Liu (刘敬华) 邀请带领大家一起跳家庭Zumba。Billy 曾获2011年 Summer Sizzling latin youth competition Jive, chacha, 青少年第一名。2012 年 American Ball competition Latin  junior I  Sumba, Jive, Rumba 第一名。父母孩子们，让我们跳出閃耀自信! 会员免费，非会员$5/家庭。

7-9 pm: 讲座与讨论。(有儿童托管, 我们请到很有教学经验的老师教孩子美术工艺和讲故事，费用是每家$5.)

地点: 新泽西华人福音会 11 Lexington Ave., East Brunswick, NJ 08816

会员免费；非会员＄12每家庭（场地费用）。

活动组织者: Hayden Hsiung, Tracy Gao, Xin Tan

联系人：May Huang (908 240 9579, mayhuang97@yahoo.com), Qing-Hong Dai (908 546 8112, qinghongdai@yahoo.com), Ming Xu (732 829 8007，mingxuhomes@yahoo.com)

报名： www.pceclub.org

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English version

Straight "A" students are no less prone to depression or anxiety. Similarly, Ivy League degrees do not immunize the degree holders from different forms of challenges they may face later in life, such as layoffs, divorce, bankruptcy and other vagaries of life. If ineffectively dealt with, these personal challenges may result in forms of self-sabotage like emotional eating, alcoholism, drug abuse or excessive spending. 

Therefore, raising successful children is about a lot more than simply helping them getting good grades and gaining acceptance into prestigious universities. In fact, many important life skills are not taught or measured by our schools academic curricula. For example, SAT scores do not measure a child's ability to deal with and overcome challenges and difficulties of life. Grades do not measure a student's ability maintain his or her emotional equilibrium during times of stress. Self-knowledge of one's strength and weaknesses, interests and dislikes, is not taught in schools, nor is it a prerequisite for entering Harvard or Yale. Yet, no one can deny that these "soft" skills are necessary for a happy, well-adjusted life.

What then can we as parents do to help our children to sidestep the "potholes" of life and overcome its inevitable problems and difficulties, to help our children become not just good students, but well-adjusted adults and productive citizens of our communities? This is the topics of this month's PCE event.

About the Speaker:

Lisa Lieberman-Wang CEO, Founder of FINE to FAB

Lisa is the author of the #1 Internationally bestselling book FINE to FAB. She has helped thousands of people overcome lifelong emotional challenges including depression, anxiety, stress, self-sabotage, emotional eating, compulsive shopping, sexual  abuse.

Lisa does not approach this topic from a theoretical perspective. Instead, her approach is highly personal and practical. Lisa developed her strategies 20 years ago in order to fill a need in her own life. Despite being an overachiever to please her parents, an honor student, and college scholarship recipient, she struggled for years feeling she was “never good enough”; this resulted in years with depression, compulsive overeating, binge-eating, bulimia, hospitalizations and self-sabotage. She looked for the answer to “What’s wrong with me?” never finding a solution despite spending over a half a million dollars on therapy and self-help education after college. She later realized that emotional pain and negative thinking did not have to hold her back any longer. She used the 7 Secrets of FAB to reclaim her inner peace and power, and has been free for the past 20 years. Now Lisa dedicates her own life to helping others to find that same freedom.

Lisa has been featured as an expert guest and seen by millions on ABC, FOX, CBS, Huffington Post LIVE, Dish Network 55, Direct TV 55, Comcast Cable of NJ 10, TWC 85 including some of the most popular talk shows, including “The_TALK” on CBS, “Live It Up” with Donna Drake on WLYN 10, “The Health of It” on with Dr. Barrett, “Curvy Girls” on NuvoTV and has spoken on some of most prestigious stages, including Harvard University and at the Navy Memorial.

When: January 09, 2016 Saturday, 

  6:00pm - 7:00pm: New year, new resolution! PCE club is excited to announce that we will be holding our first family Zumba session  led by club teenager member Billy Liu (刘敬华)。Billy has won 2011 Summer Sizzling latin youth competition Jive, chacha, first place. 2012 American Ball competition Latin  junior I  Sumba, Jive, Rumba first place.  No cost to our members, nominal $5/family non-members. Let's get fit together-parents and kids!           

7 - 9pm presentation. Childcare available, we have invited experienced arts teacher to lead the Kids Arts activity, cost is $5 per family) 

Where: Chinese Evangel Mission Church of New Jersey 11 Lexington Ave., East Brunswick, NJ 08816

Free for PCE club members. $12 per non-member family. Courtesy childcare is available 

Event Organizer: Hayden Hsiung, Tracy Gao, Xin Tan

Contact: May Huang (908 240 9579, mayhuang97@yahoo.com), Qing-Hong Dai (908 546 8112, qinghongdai@yahoo.com), Ming Xu (732 829 8007，mingxuhomes@yahoo.com)

Registration: www.pceclub.org